It is natural to want to do things that please your partner. As you grow together, you both change in ways that increase compatibility and connection. This is healthy. Caring about what your partner thinks of you and doing things to please your partner is a part of being in a relationship. The same goes for family.
It is very important that you value what your tribe thinks of you. However, if you allow society to control your actions to the point where you are not getting what you want out of life, something must change.
Sometimes we do things so that people don’t think less of us. But over care can make you feel like you’re being taken for granted by people around you. Over care can also make you take being turned down by a potential partner personally. However, it is possible to care less, and thus increase your level of attractiveness, confidence, and your self-value. Below are 8 reasons why caring less can be very attractive.
Reasons Why Not Caring is So Appealing
1) It shows value
Based on your approach, you can either be a selector or a selected candidate in your love life. If you keep thinking of ways to impress, you put yourself in a position to be selected. If you pull out all the stops and are not selected, this can affect your self-esteem. Instead try this: If you are interested in someone, let your natural personality show when you pursue, and do not walk in expecting anything from the interaction. When you release the outcome, your confidence and self-value will increase. You won’t care as much that someone wasn’t interested, and you won’t care as much about those who are interested. With more confidence, you will have more interactions, and one of those may lead to long-lasting love.
2) You attract people who are good for you
Care more about the impact of your actions on others, and less about what people think about you. When you choose to adopt a non-caring attitude about what people think about you, it will help you filter your real friends from the overflowing crowd of friends. The real friends who love your personality and want to stick with it will stay with you, while the others will end up losing you. It will reveal the real faces of the people you are associated with and help you choose the right ones for you.
3) It is powerful
Most people end up losing happiness in their lives by feeling sad about feeling unappreciated by the people around them. But self-belief and self-confidence are the two most powerful weapons that can help you win the war of life. What you think about yourself creates an inner power in your body and helps you focus on your goals rather than the procedure. The not-caring attitude makes sure that the person has a sense of self-belief and does goal-oriented tasks instead of impression-oriented tasks.
4) You start to enjoy interactions more
Interactions with real friends are more enjoyable than ones with people you cannot be yourself around. When you don’t care what people think, you can truly enjoy yourself and you don’t need to put on a front. A not-caring attitude helps you to maintain the originality of your happiness and maintain an enjoyable aura around your personality. It will ensure you enjoyment and authenticity in life.
5) Not caring is liberating
Some people have spent a majority of their life caring so much about what others think of them that they don’t do what they really want to do, fearing how they will appear in others’ eyes. This is when caring too much is debilitating. Your care towards the world’s thoughts creates a mask of fakeness on you and your behavior. It hides your genuine personality and can end up making you unattractive. Genuineness is an attractive quality to men and women, and it goes a whole lot further than trying to impress everyone. It allows you to be your true self and live the life you’ve always dreamed of, which will draw people to you.
6) People will feel more comfortable around you
People always feel more comfortable talking to and enjoying themselves with genuine people rather than with people of fake-mindedness. The not-caring attitude helps you distinguish between the friends who enjoy being with you and the ones who may have other motives.
7) Not caring lets you drop labels
A “no-care” attitude helps you drop labels like “good” in the eyes of others. You can become a person who is not ashamed of being an original and enjoy life to the fullest. People who are free from fear of labels are more attractive than fake-minded people.
8) You rely more on your happiness
Showing a non-caring attitude towards the world helps you focus more on what is most important. It removes the barriers of fakeness from your life and allows you to do what is best for you without worrying about the world’s opinion of you. You can be yourself and live your life to the fullest without the stress or fear of impressing other people.
Allowing the world’s opinion of you to dictate your actions creates a fakeness in our personalities and makes them more unattractive and dull. Being unconcerned about what the rest of the world thinks of us makes us more appealing to our partners. A true personality is always better than a fake personality with stress and fear of labels in the mind.
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