In today’s world, we are constantly bombarded with new information and different ways of doing things. We may not be able to keep up with it all, and everyone else is ahead of us. So how do we get ahead? You can read many books, listen to audio courses, watch countless hours of TED talks, watch Youtube videos, and subscribe to hundreds of websites online… But this article will provide you with 10 tips that will help you out! Follow these ten rules without fail, this can help you become less socially awkward.
Interrupting someone while they are talking is a surefire way of looking like an idiot. How can you become socially intelligent if you have the tendency to cut people off? You can’t! Instead, focus on what others are saying and pay attention. If you don’t understand or need clarification, ask for it without sounding rude. If you are still unable to understand what the speaker is saying, just keep quiet until they finish their sentence.
Everyone has done this at least once, and it’s so primordial. When someone is making a point or story that you feel is going nowhere, you want to jump in and save them by giving your own similar experience or just finishing their sentence. But even if your intentions are good, it comes across as awkward and rude. Also, don’t start telling your own stories in the middle of others’. If they are not interested, they will lose interest pretty quickly when one story is cut off only to be followed by another one immediately.
As much as you may hate to admit it, we can all be annoying at some point. Some are most of the time. You just have to learn how to deal with these people and let them do their own thing without interfering or causing trouble. If you are this type of person, then start respecting other people’s opinions and values.
Most people do not like being judged and criticized. They keep their problems to themselves and never dare discuss them with anyone else. When you bombard people with your problems, they will start tuning you out or avoid talking to you altogether. This can be for numerous reasons, like the idea of being embarrassed or because you are just boring them. But most importantly, coming across as a nuisance can ruin your chance of socializing or making new friends in a concise time.
So here you are, a person having a conversation with someone who seems to know everything about your topic or area of interest. You are trying to prove that you are equally knowledgeable but keep on failing miserably. Instead of dwelling on it and getting upset, just ask questions and listen!
Sometimes we come across different people who seem to have very “strange” behaviors and mannerisms that can sometimes be puzzling. If you want to make them feel comfortable, do not freak out! Just go along with the flow because most likely they aren’t even aware of their weird behavior. This is just the way they are.
Similar to not cutting someone off while they are talking, you should never ever interrupt someone when they are having a conversation with you. If you keep doing this, people will start to view you as self-centered and inconsiderate. Most of all, it will give them a negative impression of you!
This happens when you don’t want to listen to the speaker. You keep interrupting them even before they start talking by giving your own answer or opinion on what they are trying to say. They will surely get confused and think that you are just being rude, so just let them finish before you answer. When you assume something about someone or feel that they might be judging you, it can make you come across as an arrogant, selfish-behaving person. Also, don’t interpret what they are trying to say and think from their body language and mannerisms.
You have just met someone and you are talking to them, but they keep staring at their own phone. Or they always check their watches while you are conversing with them. Now they might be doing both of these things because they are busy or multitasking, but if you think that it’s annoying, then show some consideration for others.
I know what you are probably thinking, “How can I tell whether or not they are saying bad things about me?” If you hear them gossiping about other people in your presence, then it is pretty likely that they are doing the same thing regarding you when you aren’t around. Do not be this kind of person. Be the kind of person who speaks well about someone. If you have negative feelings about a person, keep them to yourself unless you desire to resolve issues with that person directly. Don’t spread rumors. It’s that simple. Otherwise, no one will want to talk to you because they won’t trust you!
These 10 tips may seem basic, but they are definitely worthwhile to follow. If you can follow these tips and be socially intelligent, then you will be able to fill up a room easily, have conversations with complete strangers, and also meet people who share similar interests. Furthermore, you won’t be viewed as an arrogant person, and people will be more likely to share their opinions and problems with you.
If you want to get the most out of your opportunities, then don’t keep them to yourself. Use your social intelligence to help others and make their lives better.
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