7 Reasons Why Relationships Fail and Don’t Work Out for You

  • January 18, 2022
  • 5 min Reads
why Relationship fail

The disappointment of a relationship that fails and doesn’t work out the way you’d hoped can be debilitating. There was no reason why it didn’t work out at the time. You loved them so much, what was the problem?

There are many different reasons why relationships fail, so if you see any of these issues in your relationship, you should either address them or consider whether or not you want to be in a relationship with someone who brings these issues into the mix.

7 Reasons Why Relationships Fail

  1. You are afraid to ask what you really want
  2. You and your partner have a difference in maturity
  3. You don’t know the real person you are dating
  4. You depend on your partner to feel better
  5. You and your partner are too different
  6. One of you is not putting enough effort
  7. You don’t have good role models to look up to

1. You are afraid to ask what you really want

There are so many things people wish they could say to their spouses but are afraid to say, such as –  I’d like more sex. But saying it out loud is strange. To top it all off, they don’t want their partner to feel awful.

The more dates couples go on while dating, the better it would be for both of them. However, that does not mean they can’t spend time apart. Becoming insecure might create a distance between the other partner and their loved ones which is not healthy.

Asking for what you want can be difficult, awkward, or even frightening at times. However, you cannot just sit and do nothing and expect everything will work out on its own by some miracle.

2. You and your partner have a difference in maturity

If your partner acts like an actual child, it can be tough to get past the fact that they are just like children at heart. They might not be compatible with you. Or, they add a special type of goofiness to your relationship that makes you always smile and mess around.

If your spouse acts like a teenager even though you’re both adults (i.e., grumpy, attention-seeking, and prone to tantrums) this might cause problems because you’re trying to be in an adult relationship with someone who acts significantly younger than they should be.

Even if you’re an independent adult, you may find yourself in this situation if your partner is incapable of taking care of themselves. No one wants to be a parent and a partner simultaneously, so if your spouse is acting immaturely, it’s time to tell them to grow up or go out of your life.

3. You don’t know the real person you are dating

Six months is the average length of time it takes for a person to let go of their inhibitions and shed their colonial charm. Until then, you won’t be able to see what’s beneath the surface.

If you remove it, your partner’s flaws and quirks will be exposed, revealing who they really are. The decision is yours to make at this point: whether or not you choose to stick around or move on.

4. You depend on your partner to feel better

Self-doubting and insecure Partner A is introduced to Partner B, who is overconfident and borderline egotistical. At first, everything appears to be going swimmingly: anxious Partner A confides in secure Partner B, who calms her nerves with reassurances galore.

The situation, however, swiftly unravels when insecure Partner A recognizes that the confident assurances offered do not genuinely address the root cause of their insecurity.

On the other hand, Partner B begins to resent Partner A as “too dependent” and “fragile” as the relationship progresses. Once the trust has been lost, and the anger has festered for some time, the partnership will end violently or with an agonizingly slow whimper.

There’s a lesson to be learned here. Your emotional well-being is entirely within your own hands. Please don’t turn it into your partner’s responsibility.

Our interactions with others obviously influence our mental health and well-being. In other words, if you’re going into a relationship relying on the other person to be happy, you’re setting yourself up for failure from the get-go. This is one of the main reasons why relationships fail.

5. You and your partner are too different

They say opposites attract, but if you and your spouse are the complete opposite, it’s unlikely that you’ll be able to get along. Having different tastes is acceptable, but if your partner refuses to watch, try, or do things you enjoy because they ‘don’t like it,’ your relationship is headed for significant turbulence! This is one of the most common causes of failed partnerships.

6. One of you is not putting enough effort

Everybody enjoys a night in with their significant other, but if all you do is watch Netflix and chill, that might not be healthy. Date nights and making an effort for your partner are crucial because they allow you to spend time together in a different atmosphere than what you are used to and make them feel special and cherished.

Your spouse might feel that you don’t believe they’re worth the effort or that you don’t love them if you don’t go on dates or do anything romantic. Your relationship may suffer and fall apart if these feelings become too strong.

7. You don’t have good role models to look up to

When we think of ourselves as mature and competent decision-makers, we like to believe that we make critical life decisions based on sound logic and strong facts.

Although we may not like to admit it, our behavior is mostly shaped by unconscious tendencies. Particularly when it comes to choosing romantic partners, we are greatly influenced by the kind of relationships we were exposed to as children and still see regularly. That indicates It’s hard to go against the tide and select a good relationship when dysfunctional relationships are all around you your relationships might fail.

Suppose you want your powerful unconscious models to operate for you rather than against you. In that case, it’s preferable to attempt and change the kind of people and relationships you spend time with instead of presuming you can stand above all social influences.


Doing the same thing repeatedly and expecting different outcomes is the definition of relationship insanity. Change even one of these things, and you’ll notice a dramatic shift in your life and the lives of the individuals you’d like to be around. Be the change you want to see. By not doing that you are setting your relationships to fail.

Your personal, financial, and generational well-being needs can be met through Divine You. As a virtual life coach, Divine You Wellness will provide you with helpful and insightful advice on various topics such as self-improvement, healthy relationships, meditation, personal growth, and achieving financial and investment goals.

By Divine You Wellness

Download our app now!

Dive In You

Tap to unlock the door to your Divine path