It is natural for a couple not to agree on everything related to their personal life, social life, and professional life. However, an individual, who is emotionally mature, does not argue over little things and does not refuse to resolve an issue through discussion or mutual compromise. An emotionally immature person is unable to do the following tasks:
- Communicate their feelings
- Process issues that negatively impact relationships
- Forgive and move forward
- Empathize with a partner’s feelings
- Control their temper during a conflict
- Understand how their actions contribute to an issue
- Accept responsibility for their own actions
What is an Emotional Age?
A person’s physical age is determined by the number of birthdays. In kids, their height, cognitive functions, and strength are directly related to their physical age. However, an individual’s emotional age is exhibited by their habits or reactions to different situations. For example,
- Children tend to lose their temper and patience quicker than adults since adults learn to stay level-headed and rational through their experiences.
- Adults try to resolve issues through discussion or compromise, unlike kids who are quick to complain or quarrel.
- Adults learn not to act impulsively or be tactless during a discussion similar to kids. They exercise careful judgment.
Youngsters cannot act in a civil manner at all times. However, this type of behavior is unexpected from an adult. An emotionally immature person is impatient, intolerant, and displays child-like behavior. Your relationship might turn into a toxic relationship if your partner has these personality traits which makes them emotionally immature.
7 Signs of an Emotionally Immature Person
1. They Struggle to Talk About their Feelings
It is difficult for an emotionally immature person to process emotional experiences. They may claim to be bothered by nothing. In reality, they cannot access or process their emotions.
Any conversation with an emotionally immature person may seem one-sided. You have to ensure the wellness of a relationship if your partner lacks emotional maturity.
2. They are All Talk and No Action
There will be discrepancies between the words and actions of an emotionally immature person. For example,
- Your partner may claim to be fine with you spending time with your friends over the weekend.
In reality, he/she may have difficulty accepting the fact and may argue with you over this issue.
- Your partner may claim that work-life balance is important
In reality, he/she may spend more time at work and may not make time for the relationship.
- Your partner may claim to be open-minded.
In reality, he/she may seem to have no tolerance for differences in opinion on any issue.
These are a few examples of how an emotionally immature person may behave. Their actions may fail to line up with their words, making your relationship seem stifled.
3. They are Egocentric
A child has no control over emotions and keeps crying until the demands are fulfilled. People learn to control their emotions over time. An emotionally mature person knows to pay attention to others’ needs and knows to compromise instead of always trying to fulfill his/her demands. But if your partner is emotionally immature, they will be self-centered and egocentric.
4. They are Unwilling to Try New Things
An emotionally mature person is willing to try new activities and is flexible enough to adapt to adverse situations in life. A relationship can survive the test of time if both partners are willing to participate in activities that may seem unusual or uncomfortable to them.
However, it may be difficult to determine if your partner will be willing to try new activities you may suggest in the future. You may ask yourself the following questions if you need assurance when dating:
- Is your partner mature enough to accept feedback and criticism without becoming argumentative or defensive?
- Does he/she willingly participate in new activities that you want to try together?
- Does he/she ask for help or advice when having difficulty dealing with an issue?
5. They Don’t Take Responsibility
An emotionally immature person is unwilling to commit to anything. They do not like to make plans for the future and taking up responsibility for anything in their life will seem overwhelming. However, it is important to remember that the fear of commitment may stem from an event in a person’s life. Therefore, not everyone unwilling to commit is irresponsible; there are many people who have a sense of responsibility despite being unorganized. An emotionally immature person does not want to be self-sufficient and tries to delegate responsibilities to others. This particular nature separates them from others.
6. They Constantly Ask for Reassurance
Your partner has dependency issues if he/she asks for reassurance all the time. This is a sign of insecurity that stems from emotional immaturity. Your partner will depend upon you to complete all the tasks if he/she lacks confidence. This nature may seem overbearing at times despite your level of confidence. These individuals may notice an improvement in their own confidence level through psychological counseling. However, you have to ensure that he/she is willing to work on these issues if you want to have a healthy relationship.
7. They are Impulsive
Impulsivity is another sign of emotional immaturity. An emotionally mature person does not say or do anything without thinking about the potential consequences of the words or actions. They have the maturity to consider others’ points of view.
Emotionally mature people do not hurt or humiliate others with their words when they are angry. They speak when they are calm. They seek information and analyze various options before making any decision or doing anything.
On the other hand, an emotionally immature person will have poor control over his/her impulses and will consistently act without thinking.
These behavioral signs can help you identify an emotionally immature person. However, it is important to remember that every person matures at his/her own pace.
It is prudent to accept the reality if you want to stay in a relationship with an emotionally immature partner out of love. You have to focus on the attractive aspects of his/her character and figure out what can be done differently so that these child-like behaviors do not become problematic.
However, if your partner does nothing to maintain the relationship, then this constant effort from your side may seem tiresome or fruitless after a period of time.
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